Practical exercise
Map your last family argument with arrows and counters
Most family arguments feel huge in the moment because nobody can see the shape of them. You will take one recent argument from your home, draw it as boxes and arrows on a single page, and discover that what felt like a war was usually three small disagreements wearing one big costume.
Now try it
Map your last family argument with arrows and counters
Stretch
Map a public argument next: a TV talk show debate, a Twitter spat between two journalists, a cricket commentator clash. The same shape applies. You will find the public ones are usually shallower than family ones.
Goes into your portfolio
The photograph argument-map-NN of the hand drawn map plus the reflection doc argument-reflection-NN with three sentences naming the real disagreement, the shared assumption, and the de-escalation line.